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"Teardrop became a regular monthly thing for me and became the place I could talk openly and not be judged in any way." - Sara's story 

Trigger waring: Please note the below content contains information regarding baby loss and bereavement. 

To support baby loss awareness week, bereaved mum Sara, has bravely shared her story and experience of baby loss, in the hope to help others who have experienced the same. 

"On the 29th December 2007 at 12 days late I went into labour with my son Jack.  Everything seemed fine until I got to the hospital.  Unfortunately, Jacks heartbeat could not be found.  I had felt him move only a couple of hours earlier so he had passed away at some point during my labour.  Once Jack came into this world reality also hit home.  No cry, just a heartbreaking silence and instead of joy, a room which was filled with such sadness.

I will be forever grateful to my midwife Leila at a time where she must have been feeling all sorts of emotions herself she stayed calm, professional and made sure we were at the centre of her care.  Leila treated Jack like any other baby she had just delivered she cuddle him, weighed him, bathed and dressed him and wrapped our precious boy in his blankets and placed him in his cot.  Giving us as a family time to talk and spend time with him but also being on hand for anything we needed or any questions we had.

17 years ago we didn’t have the dedicated room the hospital does now, The Willow room.  They did their best with what they had and placed us at the quieter end of the delivery rooms to try and keep us away from other mothers giving birth.  I’m so pleased the hospital now has this special room.  Coming in to take footprints and a lock of hair so I had something I could take home with me.  Allowing me as much time as we needed to spend with Jack before I was ready to go home.  Whilst getting ready for home the midwives promising to take care of Jack for me when we had to leave without him.

After a few weeks I felt strong enough to attend the Teardrop support group which the hospital had given me information about.  The first time I went I felt nervous so my mam and sister came along to support me.  I didn’t say much at the first few sessions however to hear other parents talking I realised the way I was feeling I was not alone.  I then started to attend by myself and felt able to talk about my story.  The support I received from Teardrop was amazing I was able to talk about things I wasn’t always able to with others.  Teardrop became a regular monthly thing for me being the place I could talk openly about Jack and not be judged in anyway." 

If you need support you can contact our Teardrop befrienders and bereavement midwives directly: 

07531206784 - Teardrop befriender (Marie) 

07531206784 - Beareavement midwives (Jenny & Nira) 

You can also visit the Teardrop website for more information about the support they provide: https://bit.ly/3N7avj8